Study 13: A Man of Purity

Finally then, brethren, we request and exhort you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received from us instruction as to how you ought to walk and please God (just as you actually do walk), that you excel still more. For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification. So, he who rejects this is not rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you.

1 Thessalonians 4:1-8

Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win. Everyone who competes in the games exercises self-control in all things. They then do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable.Therefore I run in such a way, as not without aim; I box in such a way, as not beating the air;but I discipline my body and make it my slave, so that, after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified.

1 Corinthians 9:24-27

We are continuing our study on the Character of a Godly Man.

In our age, we may imagine that we are living in the most sexually explicit time in history with extraordinary temptations that make it impossible to live a morally pure life. However, the audiences of Paul’s epistles were in an equally – if not more salacious – culture to ours. And his instructions carried the full expectation that a Spirit-indwelt believer had everything necessary to gain consistent victory over sexual sin and live lives pleasing to God. While they were in the world, they – and we – are never to be of the world.

There is something particular about today’s temptation when it comes to the lure and availability of pornography in that it has moved the battle directly to where this particular fight is always won or lost: the private thoughts of the heart. We need to be all the more diligent to guard our hearts in this matter.

While much of the response to the bondage of sexual sin has been techniques (methods and programs to deal with behavior with some form of accountability) this is not the substance of what keeps the Christian in the joy of a holy life marked by a clean conscience. What the past few lessons have taught us is the substance is divine power in the inner life: the work of the Holy Spirit through His Word.

That is the key.

This is no human victory. You cannot ‘self-control’ yourself into purity by your own strength. We are to rely on the truth of Scripture and the conviction of the Holy Spirit leading us to repentance and godliness.

In Matthew 5:27-29, Jesus drives to the crux of the issue and gives us two principles to ponder:

1 – This is an internal battle first

“…I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart…”

  • Sin begins in the heart and that’s where it must be defined
    • remember, the heart is the wellspring of every form of evil (Matt 15, Mark 7)
    • are you merely dealing with the externals? or are you going all the way, to the root and waging war there long before the sin is acted out?

2. It is a severe threat requiring radical amputation

“If your right eye makes you stumble, tear it out and throw it from you… if your right hand makes you stumble, cut it off and throw it from you; for it is better for you to lose a part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.”

  • have you counted the cost of this sin (and the reward of purity)?
  • it is a particularly destructive sin (1 Cor 6:18)
  • sexual sin is solemnly warned against (1 Thess 4:6) where Paul remarks that “God is an avenger in all these things”
  • it is a disqualifying sin (1 Cor 9:27)
    • think of its devastating consequences to your family
    • consider the reproach it brings to your gospel testimony
  • do you embrace the conviction of the Holy Spirit and the radical repentance His Word demands on this area of your life?
  • go through last week’s lesson (11 – A Man of Integrity) and consider self deception vs genuine confession and repentance in sexual sin

Understanding that this is a battle in the private thoughts and imaginings of the mind, and it is to be fought with severity – that requires you to have a battle plan in facing this temptation. And it must have a clear intention of victory: the violent death of sexual sin and victorious joy of godly purity.

1 Thess 4:4 says “each one of you must know how to posses his own vessel in sanctification and honor”. I believe Paul means “know how to control your own body” in this matter. 

Paul models this for us in 1 Cor 9:24-27 showing that his Christian life is one of discipline – bringing his body under control by “exercising self control in all things“. What he essentially says is: “I am not controlled by anything in my flesh, but I control it. I am not controlled by my desires – even if those desires may be considered neutral, I bring my flesh to heel.”

The Apostle had a comprehensive view, taking all his life under a Spirit-empowered self control. Because the stakes are that high. Negatively, the devastation of disqualification. Positively, the imperishable reward awaiting the faithful disciple.

His goal (as not beating the air) in self discipline was moral strength. He was still going after this, decades into his conversion and ministry. So – a quick recap – this is a battle of the inner life, you must go to war with it, and do not underestimate it! Stand firm, stay steady. You will not be mastered by sin. In fact, you are to be mastered by Christ alone. 

So in the area of discipline and self control, we need some serious self evaluation to see if you are mastered or enslaved by anything. Even what you may think is neutral. Because, as 1 Thess 4:4 tells us – you must know how to control your body – so your strategy must start by understanding your weaknesses in this area where the enemy will most certainly strike to get at your soul.

Evaluate

Here are a few ways to evaluate yourself to see if you have particular vulnerabilities to enslavement, and work to cultivate self control “in all things”:

  • In those things with which you coddle yourself and reward yourself (this could be a hobby, media, an enjoyable habit), give it up for a season.
    • give up what you enjoy when you don’t have to
    • this is not in itself spiritually beneficial (this must not be asceticism, see Col 2)
    • this is to bring your desires under the control of a parameter to see if you are enslaved by it, and then to begin to practice self control even in the enjoyment of it
    • Spurgeon did this to see if he was controlled by his cigar smoking (http://www.romans45.org/spurgeon/misc/cigars.htm)
  • Overlook offenses
    • we have a natural tendency when we’ve been personally offended to demand that it be made right
    • to nurture self control, begin to practice this: when you’ve been personally offended (especially at home), resolve it in your heart and don’t say anything about it
    • this is the discipline of learning how to absorb and not feed a desire, starving the tendency of wanting satisfaction in a personal matter
    • there is a direct link between feeding your desires in matters of personal offense and weakness in moral fibre
  • Do your undesirable tasks before your favorite ones
    • why? So you don’t coddle yourself and feed your flesh
    • when is something your slave? when it does what you tell it to
  • Admit weakness before it’s exposed
    • this cultivates humility and transparency
    • proud men refuse to admit weakness, even when it’s been uncovered
    • confessing weakness pulverizes the tendency to hide with pride
  • When something goes wrong, thank God first
    • when something irritates you or even provokes you to anger, start by thanking God for that situation
    • this crushes the pride of self sovereignty (wanting things your way)
    • you’ll discover that as you thank God in temptation, your victory is already secured
    • your eyes are turned to Him and away from your weakness

We live in a culture that coddles us on every level. Don’t imagine that doesn’t affect your self control, your humility and your battle with purity. If you coddle yourself rather than bringing yourself under the control of the Holy Spirit, you will fail in this area of your life.

This is not about asceticism or rigidness of life, it is about evaluating your heart to find its vulnerabilities and cultivating self control.

What are the things that take your guard down?

  • Tiredness? Overworking?
  • Spiritual and emotional trials?
  • Conflict at home?
  • Boredom? (young men, be especially wary of this)
  • Isolation?

“…know how to control your body in sanctification… For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification. So, he who rejects this is not rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you.”

Sexual sin is slavery and leads to destruction. Yet in our salvation, we have been called to purity. This is not a reluctant religious killjoy – it is the liberation of the Christian! We get to be pure, to have a clean conscience, to have true and unashamed sexual pleasure to the glory of God in the intimacy of marriage! And for the single, your energy may fully be expended in the service of others as you cultivate moral purity before – and into marriage! 

Men, let us rejoice in purity. It is the protection of our souls and the liberation of our consciences in a perverse and wicked generation.

Study 12: A Man of Truth

“Therefore, laying aside falsehood, speak truth each one of you with his neighbour, for we are members of one another.”

Ephesians 4:25

“Behold, You desire truth in the innermost being…”

Psalm 51:5a

We are continuing our study on the Character of a Godly Man.

Last time we spoke on Integrity and the conscience. The fact is, in a church like ours where God’s Word is clearly taught, where we have active discipleship and men pursuing godliness, and we have a men’s study which pulls no punches – you’re going to have those times when your conscience is hit and you say “man, that’s is convicting!” 

The question is, what are you going to do about it?

You have two options: self-deception, or self-indictment. You will either suppress the truth and ignore, deflect or dodge the pangs of conviction… or you will confront sin by confession and repentance. The first option is the natural one, the second must be empowered by the Spirit and leads to integrity and truth in the inner man before God.

1 – How do we deceive ourselves?

  • We ignore
    • don’t imagine that God will allow you to ignore His truth
    • to ignore conviction from the Word of God is to resist the Holy Spirit
  • We rationalize
    • this is how we silence the conscience
    • the conscience is the accuser, and you become the devil’s advocate (the devil being your own desires)
    • rationalizing is becoming the serpent saying “has God really said”
    • we re-interpret the Scripture to avoid its unyielding truth
  • Realize that self-deception is at the core of the old man (see Eph 4:17-19)
  • We have been called to speak truth, and it starts by putting off all falsehood – especially self-deception in avoiding conviction

2. How should we confess?

  • Psalm 51 is our model
  • Start with a clear and specific acknowledgment of whatever is being exposed in your heart
  • Do not run from the light, but expose your heart to the full sunshine of God’s Word
  • Confess your sin by agreeing with what God’s Word is revealing
  • Have the posture of ‘raising your hands to heaven’ 
    • this was the attitude of saying “God examine my hands, I’m open before you”
    • come to God asking for His evaluation of your heart
    • integrity for sinful men must begin with confession
  • Confess your rationalizations, confess where you have been suppressing the truth
  • Say about your sin “in that moment, I loved my sin more than Christ”
  • Take the truth, be honest with yourself, confess the reality of it all in light of God’s Word, be specific about its offense, pray that God’s heavy hand of conviction would not allow a moment’s peace in hypocrisy, call for pruning
  • Empty the room
    • as David prayed “against you, and you alone have I sinned – and done what is evil in your sight”
    • everyone else is excluded, you are to contend with your sin first and foremost before God
    • exclude those who may offer excuses to your behavior (he made me angry, she tempted me, finances were tough)
    • the blame is on me, there’s no blame-shifting
    • God defines what is sin, what offends His holiness
  • Embrace the forgiveness you have in Christ and rejoice that you are not a slave to sin, but free to serve our Saviour

A man of integrity is a man useful to God. 

As David confessed his sin, turned from it and embraced God’s forgiveness, it produced a yielded submissiveness to God and His will. “Make me hear gladness, renew a steadfast spirit in me…” and then he got back to what he’s supposed to be doing “teaching sinners Your ways”. A renewed mind, a new life. That’s what we’re looking for – putting off sin and producing lasting fruit.

A man of integrity is eager to be in discipleship – a hypocrite is afraid of people in his life because he is afraid of being exposed. We are to be men who are whole and not divided, speaking truth all the way into the inner man and inviting influences that will expose us to the light of God’s Word. Integrity has the attitude of embracing and not resisting the conviction of the Holy Spirit and engaging to the full result that is intended by Him.

Although this is not the perfection of your life, may it be the direction as you nurture and cultivate integrity in confession rather than self-deception.

Study 11: A Man of Integrity

“Behold, You desire truth in the innermost being…”

Psalm 51:6a

O LORD, who may abide in Your tent? Who may dwell on Your holy hill?
He who walks with integrity, and works righteousness, and speaks truth in his heart. He does not slander with his tongue, nor does evil to his neighbour, nor takes up a reproach against his friend;
In whose eyes a reprobate is despised, but who honors those who fear the LORD; he swears to his own hurt and does not change;
He does not put out his money at interest, nor does he take a bribe against the innocent. 
He who does these things will never be shaken.

Psalm 15

We are continuing our study on the Character of a Godly Man.

Integrity is the character of man after God’s own heart. As David emphasized in his prayer of confession, “…behold, You desire truth in the innermost being…” A man who is not only undivided, not a hypocrite, not compromised, but a man who is honest to his very core and pours God’s truth into his heart.

Psalm 15 goes to the integrity and honesty of a man, the prerequisite for one who will enjoy an intimate walk with God, and be useful to Him. What David reveals about integrity is a man with a clear conscience (bound up in the very word, integrity) and the character that flows from truth spoken in the inner man.

One cannot address the issue of integrity without spending a significant amount of time on the conscience: sadly a topic often overlooked, misunderstood and abused by many. Though the conscience is immaterial – you can’t touch or measure it – it can drive a man to suicide, determine a life of joy or depression, marks the difference between a sociopath and a ‘normal person’.

1 – What is the Conscience?

  • “the one who stands alongside” either accusing or commending (Rom 2:15)
  • It is not God’s law, yet may reflect it
  • Think of it as the mechanism God intended to shine the truth of God’s Word into your inner life exposing it either to commendation or condemnation
  • It is like your spiritual nerve-endings indicating pain to warn you when something is wrong (and likewise, think of the lack of conscience as leprosy, where all feeling is lost)

2. The Conscience can be seared or sensitized

  • Paul warns of those who dull or sear their conscience (1 Tim 1:5-6)
    • “those who have strayed from a good conscience, a pure heart and a sincere faith”
    • this is a package deal – those who violate their conscience no longer have a pure heart and their faith is no longer sincere – the seeds of hypocrisy and apostasy have been sown
    • straying from a pure conscience results in fruitless discussion and pride (when you violate your conscience, things become murky)
  • The rule is: do not violate your conscience – even though it is not God’s law, and even if it is poorly informed. What is done in violation of conscience not only sears and defiles, it is sin (see Rom 14)
  • Instead we should be calibrating and informing our conscience with Truth

3. The Conscience must be trained in the truth

  • We always battle an ‘underbaked’ or ‘overbaked’ conscience
    • your conscience may warn you of things that don’t matter to God
    • your conscience may be silent when it should be warning you of violating God’s Word
    • these two often exist in the same person (self-righteous legalism, anyone?)
  • The greatest culprit in misinforming our conscience is a combination of worldliness and psychology
    • we get used to sin by exposure to it in the culture and entertainment
    • we are told by the authorities of psychology that guilt is always bad and we should discard it
    • psychology commends pride and tolerance of sin, ultimately inverting the conscience (calling what is good, evil and what is evil, good – Isaiah 5:20-21)
  • We must confront our conscience with God’s Word
    • Peter had his conscience confronted in Acts 10:9-16, where God commanded him to set aside his objections to non-kosher food and particularly, his separation from Gentiles
    • this was a serious issue to deal with in the early church, and Christians were urged to have patience and forbearance with one another while they matured to a better-informed conscience (Rom 14)
  • Dig into the Scriptures and cultivate conviction on its truth and emphasis, repent of guilt whether you feel it or not (guilt is first a fact, not a feeling) and this starts the process of sensitizing and cleansing your conscience

4. Love what God loves, hate what God hates

  • A calibrated is that which loves what God loves, and hates what God hates (Psalm 15:4)
  • As you act according to integrity and not hypocrisy, as you aim towards a conscience which commends rather than condemns, your life will be oriented towards and energized by good works (Eph 2:10) 
  • This is where the battle must be fought and won – where nobody else can see, but you and the Lord; the inner life

5. What defiles the Conscience

  • Psalm 15 contrasts the man of integrity against those things he despises
  • He does not slander
    • Slander is at its core hypocrisy: talking about someone what you would never say to his face
    • Deal with slander (notice how it is the prerequisite for a heart that loves God’s Word in 1 Peter 2:1)
  • He does no evil to his neighbor
    • Do you speak and act with integrity cleansed from malice?
    • Are your words and deeds aimed at building up and not tearing down (Eph 4:28-29)?
  • He doesn’t take up a reproach against his friend
    • We must clear our accounts and not hold grudges
    • When you hold something against someone and don’t deal with it, it loads your conscience and you cannot act with integrity towards them

6. Hypocrisy is Cancer

  • Is there any part of your life, if it were exposed would shame you? Destroy you?
  • A hypocrite cannot hide it from his family and children
  • Note how much weight Paul puts on a sincere conscience, with the result being that he will not be ashamed (make a word study on conscience and shame sometime)
  • Conviction is impossible to cultivate in the soil of hypocrisy
  • Hypocrisy is the seed of apostasy – it will destroy faith
  • Our culture is designed for hypocrisy
    • we are highly individualistic with much privacy, especially online
    • business justifies so much compromise and legal wrangling, it is easy to begin to play with right and wrong
    • it is so easy to live a double life, especially between work, home, and church
  • We are not pragmatists, we do not have a price – we must be morally predictable
  • Aim towards a life internally regulated by God’s Word
    • accountability is good, but it is a means towards the end
    • it is so easy to hide and get around accountability
    • the goal is to be captive to God’s Word when nobody is around and you can get away with it

A man of integrity will not be shaken. Your yes is yes, your no is no. Your convictions go to your core and you will not be spiritually shaken. You will not lose your moorings. Your family will be secure under your leadership. You will be growing and progressing as you speak truth in your heart. 

This is not talking about perfection – a perfectly clear conscience will only happen when we are glorified and no longer fight sin – but this is about the work of integrity. Cleansing your conscience, maturing your conscience, building conviction, deepening your roots, working integrity. Then you will be able to teach and proclaim the truth with clarity and conviction. You will be steady and persevere to the end. “He who trusts in You will not be ashamed.”

To you who are still in your youth – start now! This is the time when you determine your course, and integrity must begin today. What God desires of you is integrity.

Study 10: A Man of Contentment

I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.

Philippians 4:12-13

…godliness actually is a means of great gain when accompanied by contentment. For we have brought nothing into the world, so we cannot take anything out of it either. If we have food and covering, with these we shall be content. But those who want to get rich fall into temptation and a snare and many foolish and harmful desires which plunge men into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all sorts of evil, and some by longing for it have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs. But flee from these things, you man of God, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, perseverance and gentleness.

1 Timothy 6:6-11

We are continuing our study on the Character of a Godly Man.

A godly man is one who finds his true contentment in Christ and Him alone. That only comes when we find Christ is our only aim.

1 – A godly man is content with where God has placed him in life

  • The things of this world are not his primary concern
  • He earns them, yet is not focused on them
  • His mind is set on things above (Col 3:1-3)
    • Do not lose your eternal perspective
    • Live always ‘coram Deo‘ (in the conscious presence, authority, and glory of God)
    • Keep the main things the main thing (Prov 4)

2. A godly man pursues the things of God (2 Tim 2:20; Titus 2:11-14)

  • Faith
  • Righteousness
  • Godliness
  • Love
  • Patience
  • Gentleness
  • Humility
  • The Service of God’s people

3. A godly man flees earthly trappings

  • Know the danger of discontentment
  • Understand the temptations of wealth and its trappings

4. A godly man’s central goal is Christ and becoming more like Him (Eph 5:1; Phil 1:21; 2:5-11)

  • Test your contentment when you are alone (and perhaps checking your budget)
  • Keep your eternal perspective (all you have and all you are is grace, and God may at any moment, justly take it away – Job 1:21)
  • Christ must be our highest aim and ambition (John 17:3; 2 Cor 5:9; Rev 2:4)

5. A godly man’s family sees his deepest desires lived out

  • A wife needs a husband who leads her towards Christ
  • Children need a father who leads them towards Christ
    • they need to see their father with the courage stand up for Christ
    • they need to see a dependence on God for all things
    • they need to see an attitude of thankfulness
    • they need to see their father pushing away earthly desires

6. A godly man conforms his life to God’s will

  • A faith that will not be moved (Romans 4:18-21)
  • His convictions are unbending (Ps 15)
  • Faithful when trials come
  • Content with God’s Providence


The greatest gift a father can give his children is Christ, and show his love for Christ by living for Him every day.

Study 9: A Man of Humility

Therefore I, the prisoner of the Lord, implore you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love, being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

Ephesians 4:1-3

Therefore if there is any encouragement in Christ, if there is any consolation of love, if there is any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and compassion, make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose. Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus,who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. For this reason also, God highly exalted Him, and bestowed on Him the name which is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee will bow, of those who are in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and that every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

Philippians 2:1-10

We are continuing our study on the Character of a Godly Man.

True biblical humility is absolutely counter-intuitive to everything the world will throw at you to tell you how to get what you want out of life. However, an honest look at who we are and who God is leaves absolutely no room for human pride. As Romans 12:3 says, we should not think more highly of ourselves than we ought, but think as to have sound judgment.

Pride is where the heart elevates itself over another person, or a people group. This tendency is natural to the human heart and must be slain daily as we cultivate true humility.

The church is where humility should reign. It is here that we witness and are taught the grace of God, which confronts and demolishes human boasting. It is here that we find all of us equal at the foot of the cross. And yet, the church seems to be rife with pride and boasting. 

Paul admonishes the Corinthian church that their pride was dismantling the unity in the body of Christ, and his reminder is that all of us are merely men. Servants. Slaves of our Master. (1 Corinthians 3:1-7)

The only way to truly serve the church is in humility. As we serve, we should do so without any expectation of favors returned, or even thanks. To cultivate this level of humility, we offer our best work as a privilege to serve and model Jesus Christ, in whose footsteps we walk. Remember, He ‘did not come to be served, but to serve’ (Matt 20:28).

1 – Understand that the attitude of Humility brings unity (Eph 4:1-3

  1. What promotes unity?
    • Humility
    • Gentleness
    • Patience
    • Tolerance (forbearance in love)
    • Be diligent to grow in these characteristics
    • We are not our own, we are slaves of Christ (2 Cor 4:5, 5:15)
  2. Understand what true humility is
    • Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less (He must increase, I must decrease)
    • The opposite of self-awareness and self-promotion
    • Regarding others as more important than ourselves (Phil 2:1-8)
      • Everyone around you is an opportunity for service
      • Be lost in the needs of others (1 John 3:16-18)
      • Walk alongside them, bear their burdens, serve regardless of social strata and personal differences
  3. Understand why humility is so important
    • Men are called to lead their families
    • Men are to lead the church (1 Peter 5:3)
    • Young men are to be subject to elders
    • Everyone is called to humility (1 Peter 5:5)
      • Nobody is excluded
      • It exhibits trust in God
      • It is seen in thankfulness
      • The absence of humility is pride and God hates pride
  4. Understand true humility comes from a right view of God and self (Ps 8)
    • We should have no sense of personal significance
    • Before God’s glory, all sense of personal greatness is eradicated
    • Our only significance comes from how well we reflect Christ
    • Keep thinking on the character of God, this produces humility
  5. Manifestations of humility
    • submission to God’s will
    • sensitivity to others
    • slow to anger; a willingness to wait
    • perseverance in doing right
    • not pushy
    • trusting God’s promises
    • trusting God’s Sovereignty
    • loving without expectations
    • thankfulness
  6. Manifestations of pride
    • hostility toward others
    • harsh responses when expectations aren’t met
    • the fear of man
    • self-dependence
    • anxiety
    • jealousy
    • insisting on having your own way
    • refusal to wait
    • not suffering under the purposes of God

If you want God’s favour, cultivate humility because it draws God’ gaze (Isaiah 66:2) and crush pride because it brings God’s swift hand (Dan 4, 1 Peter 5:5).

Study 8: A Man who Fears the LORD

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.

Proverbs 9:10, Psalm 111:10

If you address as Father the One who impartially judges according to each one’s work, conduct yourselves in fear during the time of your stay on earth…

1 Peter 1:17

We are continuing our study on the Character of a Godly Man.

The subject we’ll consider is one that is often overlooked today, but is a vital ingredient to your sanctification, a motivation to flee temptation, and will bring urgency to your evangelism. It is the fear of the Lord. It is the fear that drives out all other fears.

First and foremost, we should consider that God is infinite and we are very finite. He is Creator, we are creature. He is perfectly righteous, holy and just. We are not.

Too much of what is called “Christianity” today is marked by a casual and lighthearted attitude, if not downright flippant. Yet there should be a genuine holy reverence, a humility, a worshipful attitude that makes us see God for who He is, and makes us evaluate ourselves for who we are. 

Although a Christian has been saved from judgment, He still acknowledges that God is the righteous judge, and our sinfulness in this life should rightly keep us in reverent awe of Him, and instill a very real fear for those still under His wrath.

The fear of the Lord makes grace amazing.

1 – The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom (Prov 9:10, Ps 111:10)

  1. The fear of God always begins with the understanding of judgment (1 Peter 1:17)
    • God has the right to judge
    • Our judgment is warranted (Ps 51:5)
  2. The fear of God means an understanding of our finiteness
    • God is infinite, transcendent, all-knowing (Ps 145:3)
    • He is always beyond our understanding
    • We are His creatures, and we should be in awe (Ps 139)
  3. The fear of God should be passed on to our children (Ps 78:1-8)
    • Fathers must be telling of God’s greatness
    • This is the continuous practice in the home (Deut 6:7-9)
    • Make it the legacy you strive to pass on (do your children know the works of God? Have you given them an awe of Christ?)
  4. Practical aspects to the fear of the Lord
    • an urgency never to displease God
    • searching for ways to always please Him (Eph 5:10)
    • see the example of a man who fears God in Ps 15

2 – A man is blessed if he fears the Lord (Ps 128)

  1. To know God is to fear Him
  2. A blessed man flees evil influences (Ps 1:1)
  3. God looks to a particular kind of man
    • humble, contrite, trembling at His Word (Isa 66:2)
    • a man who’s convictions are based on the character of God
    • believes and lives the truth (Ezra 7:10)

In our current condition (saved, but yet not glorified) an encounter with God would leave us in utter terror (remember John’s reaction when he saw Christ in Revelation 1?). A simple evaluation of who God is, and then a simple evaluation of who we are should bring us low before His majesty. It should make us reel at how amazing God’s saving grace is. It should make us tremble at what awaits unbelievers, and stir us to evangelism. It should cause our prayers to be marked by reverent awe.

This is why Peter says “If you address as Father (yes, there is an intimate, familial relationship) the One who impartially judges according to each one’s work (and yes, He the Holy Judge), conduct yourselves in fear (a healthy reverence and awe) during the time of your stay on earth.”

There is the promise held out in that last line, that one day – when indwelling sin is finally removed and all things are made new – we will be in His presence without fear, and instead, He will come to us with comfort and dwell with us in eternal joy.

“And I heard a loud voice from the throne, saying, “Behold, the tabernacle of God is among men, and He will dwell among them, and they shall be His people, and God Himself will be among them, and He will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there will no longer be any death; there will no longer be mourning, or crying, or pain; the first things have passed away.” 

Revelation 21:3-4

Study 7: A Man who Flees Temptation

Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win. Everyone who competes in the games exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable.
Therefore I run in such a way, as not without aim; I box in such a way, as not beating the air; but I discipline my body and make it my slave, so that, after having preached to others, I myself would not be disqualified.

1 Corinthians 9:24-27

We are continuing our study on the Character of a Godly Man.

Having discussed much about discipleship and personal pursuit of growth, what is the goal? That we would be men of the Word, men who are spiritually mature. In a word: godly. When it is holiness that we are pursuing, we must be men who flee temptation.

While you may immediately think of Joseph fleeing from Potiphar’s wife, this is not about running from sin in a moment of sudden and unexpected temptation. Instead, our whole life should be oriented away from sin, and even its temptation. John MacArthur has noted that “when a man falls in ministry, he usually doesn’t fall very far”. Which is to say that a big public sin has long been foreshadowed by small secret sins and temptations that he has long entertained.

Do not imagine that temptation is safe. Today, temptation has become entertainment. We no longer flee temptation, but play with it and enjoy it. We should be praying “Lord, lead me not into temptation – deliver me from evil.”

Always remember that in your heart – in embryo form – is every kind of evil (Mark 7:20-23), just waiting for the right provocation, the right situation to emerge. Don’t underestimate indwelling sin! Mankind, left to himself, quickly will be described as “every thought and intention of his heart is evil, continually”. So we need to be blocking every possible entrance of temptation in our lives.

In 1 Corinthians 9:24-27, Paul describes the Christian life with the athletic games metaphor – we’re in a race to stay faithful and glorify God. We should be running with the attitude of one that is determined to win. Olympic athletes display years of staggering self-control and discipline – and for what? A perishable prize. We won’t even remember their names in a generation. What about us, who run for an imperishable prize!

Remember, sin in your life is like a web. Everything is interconnected on some level. Not dealing with anxiety, for example, often leads to temptation in private sexual sin. We must have self control in all things. Let’s consider five general areas – portals and gateways – where temptation gains entrance into our lives.

Order you life to close off these areas of danger:

1 – Be aware of our tendency to fear and worry

  1. Fear is connected to idolatries of time and personal gain
  2. Fear is self-preservation (Matt 6:25-34)
    • it can be life-consuming
    • this results in pursing earthly security in your own strength
    • spiritual priorities become muddied
  3. Fear is a lack of trust in God’s provision (Col 3:1-4)
  4. Fear leads to selfishness resulting in lack of concern for others (Phil 4) 

2 – Be aware of our tendency to be inordinately attached to ‘things’

  1. This is the other side of what produces fear and anxiety in your life
  2. We must guard against being weighed down with earthly concerns that begin to rule our affections
    • this is particularly challenging as our comfort and security is challenged by the political climate
    • we live in great luxury, but we must be discerning with our freedoms and resources
    • The ruling affection in our hearts must be “the Lord can give and take”
  3. Failure to guard against this inhibits wise decision-making
  4. We must consider Job “shall we accept good from God, and not adversity?” (Job 2:10)
  5. Christ must be our controlling affection (Luke 9:57-62)
  6. Relational affections may not rival Christ (Luke 14:26)

3 – Guard against the temptation to become bitter or easily offended 

  1. The Christian must be ready to forgive (Proverbs 19:11)
  2. When we don’t forgive, it’s a reflection of what’s going on in our own spiritual life
  3. Bitterness as a Christian is like saying to Christ “I will take all your benefits and blessings, but I refuse to offer that to someone else”
  4. Not only forgive, but give a blessing to those who offend you (1 Peter 3:9)
  5. Carrying bitterness invites Satanic deception and folly
  6. Carrying bitterness steals joy and peace (1 Peter 3:10-12)
    • our focus dwells on human justice
    • we lose focus on God
  7. Bitterness not dealt with erodes conviction in other areas
  8. Bitterness causes unnecessary battles in sanctification
  9. Being easily offended turns into personal baggage

4 – Guard against a strong appetite for amusement (a love of pleasure)

  1. This is a massive issue for young men (Prov 6:6–11; 19:15; 1 Tim 5:11–13; 2 Thess 3:6–8)
  2. Enjoying leisure is not inherently wrong
  3. The problem comes when you love it (Eccl 3:10; 4:5; 5:12; 10:18; 1 Cor 6:12)
    • It steals from your ministry of service
    • It erodes sober-mindedness
  4. Real life is a spiritual war and it is serious (1 Pet 1:13)
  5. Unguarded pleasure and leisure is a floodgate of temptation

5 – Guard against the fear of man (Prov 29:25; Gal 2:11-13; James 1:9-11)

  1. This is not a concern over your life, but your reputation
    • This is the opposite of Proverbs 3:6
    • Our great concern must be the reputation of God
  2. There are times that your reputation may be criticized and it may be unjust, but there are plenty of other things they could have criticized and been right. They just picked the wrong thing.
  3. This is an idolatry of your own significance
  4. Be honest with God and ask “What am I trying to portray to others? Is it even remotely connected to who I am on the inside? Am I a spiritual hypocrite?”
  5. Nothing will plague your godliness and ministry as a man and discipler of other men more than wanting to be “somebody” (James 3:16)
  6. Can God shelve your ministry and you be okay with that?

Let us order our lives toward holiness, understanding the weakness of our flesh, the provision of the Holy Spirit and the eternal prize before us!